Reasons She Doesn’t Like You- Our Top 10
Relationships are a difficult thing. They’re hard to start, and they’re incredibly hard to maintain. They’re also, for some people, hard to end. Some people will stay in a relationship that they hate, simply due to the fact that they don’t know how to end it. Chances are, you’ve been in this type of relationship, as either the one who wanted to end it or the one who was oblivious to the fact that the other one wanted to end it. If you’re the latter, we have compiled a list of ten reasons why she doesn’t like you. If you find yourself doing at least 5 of these things, perhaps you should take initiative and break up with her, before she breaks up with you. That way, at least you can save face. That said, here is a list of the Top 10 Reasons She Doesn’t Like You.
#10- You Still Live With Your Parents
There is nothing that kills the mood easier than being…intimate…with a girl and her wanting to go back to your place and you saying that you still live with Mom and Dad. Now, if you’re like me, you can use this to your advantage and actually make yourself seem more charming. Unfortunately, you’re not like me, so you probably can’t. Which means if you want to create and maintain a relationship, you need to move out of the basement, Danny.
#9- You’re 30 and Still Play Video Games
I love video games. I love Halo and Madden and Arkham City. But you know what I love more than video games? Girls. I love girls. Ya know why? Because you can kiss girls. And they will cook dinner for you. And they have boobs. Does your X-Box have boobs? No, it doesn’t. So quit playing it, junior! You’re 30 years old. It’s time to start actually going out and spending time with real people, not just the people on your Playstation network.
#8- You Dress Like A Douche
If you wear Affliction, Tap Out, or Under Armor, she doesn’t like you. I know, I know bro. You see The Situation wear his Affliction shirts and his Rosary necklaces and you think you’ll look just as good as him. You won’t. He doesn’t even look good. You look worse. You should only wear Tap Out shirts if you’re 12-0. You should only wear Affliction shirts if you live in Jersey. You should only wear Under Armor if you want the world to see your every nook and cranny. Those are the only three appropriate situations to dress like a tool, otherwise, be a man and suit up!
#7- You Don’t Pay For Anything
It’s your first date, your palms are sweaty , you have butterflies in your stomach and all you want is for everything to go perfectly. You take her to the finest restaurant, order the wine, the lobster and some French dessert you don’t know how to pronounce. You’re looking deep into each other’s eyes and you are smitten. Then it comes time to pay, and you realize you forgot your wallet. Though embarrassing, this instance could be adorable and charming if you play it right. 9 months later, if you’re still “forgetting” your wallet, you’re no longer adorable and charming. You’re a mooch and she’s losing patience. If you want to impress the girl, be a man, act chivalrous, and pay for stuff! Pay for everything! Movies, dinner, wine- everything! It is your job, as the man, to take your dame out and pay for her. It’s not sexist. It’s not ‘old-world-thinking.’ It’s the way it’s supposed to be.
#6- You’re Constantly On Your Phone
We get it. You’re very busy and important. And you’re aloof, so you don’t know how important and busy you are. Cool, dude. You’re awesome. But when you’re with your lady, make her your priority. She didn’t go out with you to watch you text, tweet, tumblr, or insta-whatever. You’re with her, man! She’s the most beautiful woman in the world, or at least the room. Treat her like that. Don’t take your eyes off of her (and I don’t mean just her chest- though an occasional glance can be charming, if you play it right). Whether you’re texting your boss, your mom or another girl, it doesn’t matter. Nobody else in the world should matter when you’re with her. Make sure she knows that.
#5- Her Parents Don’t Like You
This used to be a lot bigger deal than it is now, but it is still important. I am of the belief that after the girl herself, the next most important people to impress are her parents. I remember when I first started dating my girlfriend of four years, I was more nervous about my first meeting with her dad than I was with her, herself. I wanted to so badly to make a good impression, and I think he noticed that, and I think he appreciated that. Which is why, years later, I’m still friends with him despite no longer dating his daughter. Women do care what their parents think. They want to be taken care of, and they want their parents to know that they can be taken care of. By you. This is why it’s incredibly important to impress them. So when you don’t, it sends out a huge red flag.
#4- Her Friends Don’t Like You
The only people that matter more to a girl than her parents are her friends, in terms of dating. Here’s a secret: your girl will tell her best friend everything. Everything. Your first date, your first kiss, your first time making love, how good you were at it, how bad you were at it, how long it lasted, how you cried after, everything. She will tell her best friend every last detail of your relationship. This is why it really helps to impress her friends, so they can be on your team. If her friends hate you, it will only be a matter of time before they decide to take it upon themselves to end your relationship. Make friends with them. Show them that you are the one guy in the entire world that deserves their friend. If they hate you, she will hate you.
#3- You’re Too Clingy
I’ve never really subscribed to the “3-days” rule, that being that you wait 3 days after a date before you call the girl. I’ve always thought that if you like the girl and want to see her again, call her. But there’s a difference between calling her once, after a date, and texting her ten times after a date. Dude, don’t be a creep. It’s the girl’s job to be clingy, not yours. The worst, absolutely worst thing in the world is a clingy dude. Standing outside of her house in the rain is cute in the movies. In real life, it’s creepy and borderline stalker-ish. Give her space. Let her decide what she wants. And ya know what, if she doesn’t want you, forget her and move on! I’m afraid of riding on motorcycles and angry Persian women throwing knives. But when it comes to rejection, I’m out of “effs” to give. You should act the same. There are a lot of women out there. She’s not the only one, so don’t crowd her, don’t freak her out, and don’t be clingy.
#2- You’re Her Best Friend
Here’s the deal, bud. Guys and girls can be friends, without one of them wanting more. But it’s hard. It takes strength, respect, and the conscious decision not to drink an inordinate amount of alcohol when you’re both horny and lonely. And ya know what? The good news is, your friendship with a girl will probably last a lot longer than any romantic relationship will. Statistically, romantic relationships don’t usually last. But friendships do. This is one of the biggest reasons why she doesn’t “like like” you. She knows that friendship is usually stronger than romance, and she would prefer to have someone in her life who she can talk to, cry to, open up to, and trust. She wants someone who she can be vulnerable with and trust that he’s not just trying to get in her pants. She wants you in her life forever, not just for a year or two, or four.
#1- She Doesn’t Know That You Like Her
Take a chance. Jump. Sink or swim. Whether it’s a girl at a bar, at a market, in the library, or your aforementioned best friend, if you like her, tell her. Picture this: you’re at a bar and you see a girl walk in. You know, after 5 seconds of seeing her, that she’s not like any other girl in the bar. She’s beautiful but she doesn’t know it. She’s not dressed in order to get free drinks. You can’t take your eyes off of her, and every single other girl in the bar disappears. But you never talk to her, never know her name, never know who she is, or who she could be to you. You’re too scared to talk to her. You’re too scared of rejection. You don’t want the embarrassment. Well guess what bud, you just missed your chance to potentially meet the love of your life, all because you were afraid she wouldn’t like you. But what if she did? What if you went up to her, bought her a drink, and talked to her- not about yourself, or her chest, but about who she is/what she does/where she wants to be? What would happen? Maybe nothing. Maybe everything. The biggest reason “She” doesn’t like you, is because she doesn’t know that you like her. So tell her you do. And don’t be afraid of the outcome.